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After a few moments, Ruth came back to the phone and we realized there were two concerns that became very evident as we continued talking. How do we tell Kevin about my presence and how do we comfort Julie? She was having such a very difficult time with my unexpected phone call. Ruth shared with me that Julie was very apprehensive about how we would tell Kevin about my sudden appearance in his life. Julie's refusal to come and talk to me on the phone was difficult for me. if only she'd come over and listen to my voice, she'd find out i only want what's best for kevin... that i love him dearly... and that the decision to meet me will be his decision and his alone. The three of us concluded that Ruth and Dave would drive up to Kevin's home and tell him about me and, once told, it would be up to him about meeting me or not.
After some reluctant goodbyes, we got off the phone and Dave and Ruth called Kevin to let him know they would be arriving the next morning for a visit at noon. They indicated to him it was about something that would *impact his life*, and "no", they couldn't just tell him on the phone, it had to be in person. Arrangements were made, times were finalized and then they called me back to fill me in on the plans.
They suggested that Terry and I drive down to Sandusky, MI. that Saturday afternoon [8 miles from where Kevin lived] stay overnight at a motel, and then meet with them at 10:00 AM on Sunday morning in the parking lot of a local restaurant. After a couple of hours of us getting to know each other, they would then drive out to Kevin's home at noon, tell him I was waiting in Sandusky and ask him if he wanted to meet me. We finalized our own plans about meeting each other in the morning around 10:00 AM and then reluctantly, hung up the phone.
Before I could even think of packing, I went to the computer and typed out an email to send to the Schmidts. I felt guilty about Julie's sadness and confusion... feelings that my phone call had precipitated. oh, julie, i know you're confused about all of this, but i know once you meet me, you'll see that i love kevin and only want what's best for him
It was then that I composed one of the most important letters of my life. It took a long time to write this email, but I wanted it to reflect my gratitude of the warm reception that Dave and Ruth had given me that morning on the phone.
Before we left for the five hour drive to Sandusky, I made several quick phone calls to family & friends. Special phone calls went to our daughter Tiffany, my sister Nancy and my good friend Chet. I wanted to let them know what was going on, what our plans were and when Terry and I would be returning home. Each was surprised and pleased with my announcement, but Nancy was very apprehensive about my upcoming reunion. She became very quiet and reserved and asked that I phone her as soon as I got back home Sunday evening to let her know the outcome of the reunion. I assured her I would, and told her not to worry. I reassured Nancy that Kevin's Mom and Dad were a wonderful, supportive couple and if the reunion didn't happen with Kevin, then I, at the very least, had two new friends. Nancy said, "I just don't want you to be hurt again..." I replied,
"i won't be ... i've been waiting for this reunion for 24 years, I have to believe that kevin will want to meet me... certainly i've been a mystery to him, along with his heritage, and he doesn't even know about his siblings... it was mentioned in the letter that came in the packet from the adoption agency, that he had expressed a curiosity about me, nancy? i've got to believe that still holds true with him"... oh, kevin, please say yes to meeting me...
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